Dating one race at a time

31 Jan

Of course, as noted above, things only get worse once you graduate.

And if you're frustrated with your love life, you just might try to compensate by working harder and achieving even more to fill that void.

That is, unless you count my first boyfriend – José – who, in the second grade, long-distance collect-called me from Puerto Rico and got me in a lot of trouble with my dad. But I think it’s worth revisiting these concepts within the context of romantic or sexual relationships. And the way we practice our allyship in those contexts should reflect that.

So, whether you’re years deep in a charmingly fairy tale-esque romance with your beau or you’re just now firing up to dive into your first, here are seven things to remember as a white person involved with a person of color.

Rudder writes: “Beauty is a cultural idea as much as a physical one, and the standard is of course set by the dominant culture. One interesting thing about OKCupid’s interface is that we allow people to select more than one race, so you can actually look at people who’ve combined 'white' with another racial description. In fact it goes a long way toward undoing any bias against you.” This data raises SOME interesting questions — for one thing, are these patterns mirroring the real world?Surely daters had become more open-minded over time!Sorry, folks: A look at 2014 data suggests that there has been little improvement.Date and time notation in the United States differs from that used in other English-speaking countries; in particular, the date notation is not used by any other country in the world.Traditionally, dates are written in the "month day, year" order ("December 2, 1999"), and time in 12-hour notation (" p.m.").